Is christian dating wrong
For myself, I fell for this myth hook, line, and sinker, for two reasons.
One, I was shy with guys and stepping out was uncomfortable and scary.
Intimacy makes us vulnerable, and sin makes us dangerous.
The two together, without covenant promises, can be a formula for disaster in dating.
There are times when God calls us to patiently wait on his timing.
But perhaps like Ruth, God wants you to take some action. In fact, it may require greater faith in God for you to take a risk, be vulnerable and perhaps learn some new skills that will help you better relate to those around you.
God is the greatest prize in life for any believer — at whatever age, in whatever stage of life, and whatever our relationship status.
My hope is in Christ who loves me despite my sin, and who promises to day-by-day make me more like himself as I walk with him daily. What would it mean for you to become more active in your dating life?
So, I punched “marriage” into Google Maps, jumped on the highway, and ignored the speed limits.
Instead of waiting to get to my destination to enjoy emotional and physical intimacy, I pulled over and bought something quicker and cheaper on the side of the road.
It is through him that I find the greatest hope for a happy and blessed marriage, not by following a man-made dating prescription.
I got lots of things wrong in dating, but as I think back over my mistakes and failures — dating too young, jumping from relationship to relationship, not being honest with myself or with others, failing to set or keep boundaries, not listening to friends and family, not prizing and pursuing purity — one error rises above the others, and in many ways explains the others: My dating relationships were mainly a pursuit of intimacy with a girlfriend, not clarity about whether to marry her. With the right heart, and in the right measure, and at the right time, these are all good desires.